I do not agree that acceptance of a behavior- any behavior- is necessary, in order to refrain from being a bigot or prejudicial. Nor do I think it should be considered intolerant, simply on the basis of that nonacceptance, as long as we are accepting of the person themselves; for all of mankind is loved by God. Because many Christians will not agree to wholeheartedly endorse homosexuality as right and natural, just as heterosexuality is, intolerant is the label applied to us.
Standing upon the Word of God, as our basis for our stance, is the worst kind of offense to those that would have us turn a blind eye toward homosexual acts- as sin. It matters not if we apply this same rule to all acts deemed inappropriate or sinful in God's eyes (sexual or not.) Does anyone else see this as somehow unbalanced? I do not agree that true Christians that apply God's standard to all sin, in the same regard, and without preference over any, can be considered bigots or prejudicial. Case in point, defining prejudice and bigotry:
Bigotry and Prejudice
The definition of a "bigot" or a "prejudice" are interchangeable, as the definition of "bigot" utilizes the definition of "prejudice' as it's own. So let's define prejudice: the Encarta Encyclopedia strictly defines "prejudice" as:
a preformed and unsubstantiated judgment or opinion about an individual or a group, either favorable or unfavorable in nature. (Now the broad application:) In modern usage, however, the term most often denotes an unfavorable or hostile attitude toward other people based on their membership in another social or ethnic group. The distinguishing characteristic of a prejudice is that it relies on stereotypes (oversimplified generalizations) about the group against which the prejudice is directed. (emphasis mine and some parenthetical comments my own)Note that this definition says nothing about the actions of the group, but only about the group itself.
"Prejudice" is from the Latin word praejudicium meaning "judgment in advance" and is directed, generally, as hatred or dislike towards a specific group or person, based on race, ethnicity, and sexual orientation.But note again, that it is a preformed, unsubstantiated opinion or judgment toward a person or group...not their actions. How then could one honestly attribute traits of bigotry and prejudice toward Christians? We Christians are, for the most part, fully accepting of all persons, just not all actions (or at least this how we should be towards all humanity.) They need not be mutually exclusive of each other. This would be akin to having a loved one lie to you, and saying that because we love them, we should be perfectly accepting of their lying behavior. This is preposterous!
Sexual Immorality in Scripture
Scripture defines sexual immorality as any sexual act that occurs outside the bounds of heterosexual, married, consensual sexual intercourse. This includes adultery, sodomy, effeminate male behavior, bestiality, incest, and more. All of these are regarded equally as sin by God, and by Christians that hold firm to His word.
Marriage Defined- Homosexual Unions Are Not Marriages:
Let's look at Genesis 2:20, 22
So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him. Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. (emphasis mine)This same chapter of Genesis then goes on to state that it is for this reason that a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall be one flesh (this is seen by many as well, to be a reference to the sexual union, though it is not exclusively a reference to it.) A suitable mate for man, is woman; and a suitable mate for woman is man. In addition, marriage is the institution through which God commanded mankind to procreate. Homosexuals cannot do biologically do this, without medical intervention (on the part of a female.) I grant that there are also heterosexual couples that are not able to this as well, but this is not because of anatomical incompatibility, but rather physical or other various reasons. Now for specific Scripture references that support the Christian view.
OT Scripture References Regarding Any Sexual Immorality:
In the Old Testament, we are told not to engage in any kind of lewd or lascivious sexual act- whether heterosexual or homosexual. These activities include adultery, fornication (sex outside of marriage), incest, bestiality, sodomy, and any other act of fleshly lust. There are many references but for the sake of space, I will list those that also address homosexuality, specifically. Leviticus 18:22; Leviticus 20:13; and Judges 19:22 (this is a narrative very similar to that regarding Lot and the angels with him, before the destruction of Sodom). The question has been asked how the moral aspect is still applicable, but not the "death sentence," and I shall endeavor to address this in detail in a later post. Suffice it to say that OT law is not applied in the same manner, as it was before the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ; and there are valid reasons for this.
New Testament Scripture References
In the New Testament we have a number of references to both hetero- and homosexual sin, as well. 1 Cor 6:9, 13, 18; Jude 1:7; and Romans 1:26-27 This last one, specifically, addresses homosexual acts, both female and male. I also find it extremely interesting to note, that though homosexuality was something that was known, and practiced by much of the Roman Empire- especially those of higher social status- at the time of Paul's letter to the church there; that there was no word (in Greek- the common language used for international and interracial communication) to describe a loving, committed, equal, homosexual relationship. Perhaps, if no such word existed, could it be because there was no such circumstance? Just a side thought.
Do I believe homosexuality is a choice?
Though I have used the word orientation, to state that I believed it to be a choice, I would like to try to clarify what I intended to impart. I believe that every sinful thought or desire is a fact of our humanity, and so therefore cannot be a choice. We all, as human, have them, it is a fact of mankind's condition. However, whether or not we act upon them is most certainly a choice. I was also asked if I were shown conclusive scientific evidence, that proved that homosexuality identification was something a person was born with- and had no control over- whether or not I would then be open to changing my stance. The answer is NO. The reason for this, is the fact that all sexual encounters are a choice, period. There are no exclusions. Sex is a choice. It is not a need. Some of us may believe that it is, but we are only fooling ourselves.
This is what I do know to be true, whatever our sexual orientation, it need not be also our sexual identity. If one should choose not to be aroused by members of the opposite sex, then they are free to choose celibacy, in my opinion. The same holds true for those that choose not be aroused the same sex. Self- identity need not be the basis of how we define ourselves. We are defined by who we are, not by what (or who) we do. (Please excuse my use of slang in the previous statement, it just happened to be apt.)
In conclusion, I would state, once again, that my unwillingness to accept and embrace another's sexual activity does not a bigot, make me- or any other Christian, for that matter. Everyone, regardless of any sin they may or may not have committed is loved without condition, by those that would profess to be Christ followers. For those Christians that cannot find it within themselves to do so, I can only say that being a Christian does not make anyone perfect, just more aware of our imperfections- or at least that is what should happen. I believe that most, if not all, Christians would agree with this statement; even if they agree with nothing else I have said here.
One last comment to those that do believe: We should remember that it is not our place to judge any unbeliever's sinful activity. The only "judgment" we are to make is in discerning whether or not it is sin, in order to refrain from it ourselves. The only time we should rebuke anybody's sin, is if they are already a part of the body of Christ, and we should do so according to Paul's instruction to Timothy. Though it is allowable to share what God's Word says about sin, only He can judge a person's heart, and only He knows whether or not they will one day become aware of the sin that holds them captive. Telling an non-seeking, unbeliever that they are a sinner, will do nothing more than cause hatred and revulsion of all that we are to represent. Let's follow Jesus' example in how we relate and communicate our love of all people, regardless of their sin.








I judge not, unless I'm judged. I love all because Christ first love them. God will deal with sinners who are unwilling to repent and be reborn in HIM in HIS time.
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Thanks for sharing Shalene! You have a gift at sharing.
Another great blog, Shalene. This is such a hot button topic right now. Thank you for sharing the truth in love. Blessings! ~ Tracy
ReplyDeleteIn God's eyes, sin is sin -no matter how large or small we think it is- and as Kimberly states, He is the ultimate judge. We are called to lead others to Christ verbally, and by our personal testimony in our day to day life. All too often we think people should change and believe and think the way we do. But acceptance of Christ and God's will has been and always will be a personal decision.
ReplyDeleteI do not agree that acceptance of a behavior- any behavior- is necessary, in order to refrain from being a bigot or prejudicial. Nor do I think it should be considered intolerant, simply on the basis of that nonacceptance, as long as we are accepting of the person themselves; for all of mankind is loved by God.
ReplyDeleteThis is an incredibly profound statement, Shalene. You're right, accepting behavior as right and true is not the same as accepting and loving the person, even with their flaws.
I've often struggled with this myself. I believe your post is well-stated and can't be misunderstood. Thank you for being courageous enough to lay it out on the line. You're a good example of Christianity!
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ReplyDeleteSorry for the delay in replying to this. Real world gets the in the way of the internet now and again.
You claim that god sets out what is OK and what is not. A nice and naughty list of behaviours if you will. You further state that your particular translation of your particular version of the particular books that make up the bible are his naughty and nice list.
My issues still stand and boil down to these deliberately concise points;
Leaving aside the key question; How do you know that this text is the definitive word of god?
I specifically asked you how you can decide which bits of the bible to follow and which bits to ignore.
You said you would answer my questions. You acknowledge this issue in this very post but just say you will address it later and that there are very good reasons.
I look forward to you addressing this issue at some point.
In fact I await these points with great interest as your whole argument rests upon them.
You can of course think what you want in the privacy of your own mind. What I am interested in is how you put these opinions into practice.
In what ways do you treat gay people different from straight people? It is your actions (if any) which will determine whether or not your are acting in a bigoted way.
You said; "In conclusion, I would state, once again, that my unwillingness to accept and embrace another's sexual activity does not a bigot, make me- or any other Christian, for that matter. Everyone, regardless of any sin they may or may not have committed is loved without condition, by those that would profess to be Christ followers. For those Christians that cannot find it within themselves to do so, I can only say that being a Christian does not make anyone perfect, just more aware of our imperfections- or at least that is what should happen. I believe that most, if not all, Christians would agree with this statement; even if they agree with nothing else I have said here."
So what (if anything) do you actually do differently with gays than with straights? Do you call then sinners? Do you interact with them socially just as any other person? What do you actually do?
Thanks & regards,
Psi
Psilio, I do not ignore any parts of the Bible when determining what I believe to be true. It's just that I take the Bible in it's entirety to make those distinctions, as opposed to taking bits and pieces to defend my stance. One cannot take 3 or 4 verses from the Old or New Testament and apply it to life, without testing it against the rest of the Bible as well.
ReplyDeleteAs for addressing the issue you are so interested in, you will note in my most recent post, that I am taking a hiatus from posting on my blog. I am readily admitting that I am a sinner, just like everyone else; however because I am a Christian, I cannot continue to attempt to minister when I am still living in my sin, or dealing with the consequences of them.
As for how I interact with gays... I do not interact with them any differently than I do with heterosexuals. I never have. Do I call them sinners? I don't "call" anyone a sinner, however I do assert that everyone is. Obviously, I am included in this statement. Everyone is a sinner. Do I go out of my way to point out to a homosexual that they are sinning, no. That is a discussion that should only take place if they are concerned about the state of their eternal soul. Telling someone that something they do, or don't do, is a sin, would be pointless, unless they are in a position to make a decision of faith toward God. I told you, I am not a bigot. I love all people regardless of what they may or may not do. (I'm not talking familial love, but rather, brotherly love with an honest attempt at unconditional love.)
I'm sorry that I'm unable to answer your questions sufficiently at this time, but prayerfully, I will be back soon, and will try to address them at that time.
Thanks Shalene,
ReplyDeleteI look toward to it.
Regards,
Psi
interesting discussion i wandered into. homosexuality is indeed an emotionally charged issue, especially in this age of the gay rights fight. how do y'all feel about gay marriage ? even if you do feel homosexual behavior is a sin, should the government take up that position and continue denying gays the privilege of marriage? or should they just be more hands off, and leave it up to the citizens to decide for themselves, while allowing gays that right? hmm ..
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