If you are a regular reader of this blog, you know that my husband and I are blessed with a very strong marriage, especially when you consider that it is a second marriage for both of us. We have already beaten the odds of us divorcing, based on statistics. However, even with a strong marriage, there are times when even we have a communication breakdown. One such occurence happened recently.
Not too long ago I wrote about "being on Mission" and perhaps adopting a child. I also asked that you join me in prayer, so that the Lord would put this on my husband's heart, if this was from Him. As it turns out, I found out last night, that it has been on my husband's heart, for awhile now. He has been carrying around a business card, in his wallet, of an adoption attorney! As soon as we knew we were going to miscarry our last child, he was speaking about it in one of his bible studies, and one of his study partner's wives is the attorney.
My husband and I realized last night, that sometimes, we just don't talk enough. We both realized that though we aren't ready to completely give up on the idea of having another biological child, we are ready to make a commitment that if we aren't able to have another child ourselves after one (or maybe two more tries, if necessary) that we will look seriously into adoption. That we have already been so blessed by the children we have and the monetary means, that we should be willing to give up some of the monetary blessings to help a child that really needs us.
Both of us were anxious to bring the subject up to the other, out of fear. He didn't want me to think he had given up on having another one, and I didn't want him to think I was judging him. How is it then, that I was perfectly okay with telling the rest of the world what I thought?
The answer to that is easy. Though I do care to some extent what all of you have to say, none of you is close enough to me to hurt me or be hurt by me. Why is it that we hide from those we're supposed to be the most open with?
I read an article recently about this very subject. It was written by Dennis Rainey, of Family Life Today. It talked about how we all, since Adam and Eve, have played "hide and seek" not just with each other, but with God as well. About how it is natural for us to want to hide from one another, and gave some very good examples of ways in which we can overcome this desire to "hide". I do recommend this article, to anyone that finds themselves having communication breakdowns with their spouse. I also recommend it to anyone, finding themselves hiding from God. Since I've already shared the link, I won't go into any more detail. However I will say this, communication with your spouse and God is essential for a strong relationship with both. I pray God's blessings on your marriage and your faith life today. Blessings to you!
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